I've got a bit of boy trouble, I'm 16 by the way..to make a long story short basically I was seeing this lad we
weren't officially going out but we practically were because we were only seeing each other we just hadn't committed to the "relationship
status". I was seeing him since the end of November until(the middle of January) and we got on really well and I even brought him to the school winter
ball in December which was a great night and we got on really well, he was such a gentleman and was different than other lads I've been with, he treated me
really really well and was just different.
Now we didn't see each other a lot but we were constantly texting. But then all of a sudden after the christmas break and when we were all back to school he just changed and gave me the cold shoulder like he wouldn't text me and it just went really awkward between us which confused me because it wasn't like him and it made me want to talk to him more then.
We finally met up (after about a week because things kept putting off our plans and on 2 occasions he couldn't make it which made me think it wasn't such a big rush to end it all) to talk about things and he just said to me that he "couldn't see us happening" and he "didn't think it would work out between us" and he didn't want to "be in a serious relationship" and I asked "why didn't he think it would work" and i said that "i didn't want to serious relationship either i was just wanting a bit of fun as well" and all he could say back to me was "I don't know why, something just snapped with me in my head and i just can't see us happening" and he said "i just go like that at times but i don't know why", this upset me 'cos he didn't even give me a proper excuse why..ya know? he said he still wanted to be good friends and all that as we do have a lot of friends that we would both be mates with... but what do ou think i should do? because i do want him back but this time i want to take things slow should i just get good friends with him first and play hard to get or what? and also do you think his answer to why he didn't want to see me anymore was valid or was he just letting me down easy? Do you think he did it because he has his eye on another girl? (even thought he didn't seem like he did when he was talking to me)he just seemed like he didn't know what he wanted at the time it was like he hadn't been in an even semi serious relationship before so he thought it all had to be serious and committed probably.
All this happened on the friday (the 23rd of jan.) and then saturday night(24th) I went to the cinema and he was there with his friends but he came over and talked to us and all but it was kind of awkward and he was playing with his drink a lot and shuffling his feet and turned towards me when we were all talking as well and when he went back to his friends he kept looking over and trying not to make it obvious but I just kept my back turned to him and laughed and chatted away... what do you think that could mean? Does he still like me? and then on Saturday last (feb the 7th) we went to a rugby match along with 2 other friends, because we always go anyway together and his attitude towards md and his body languauge showed he still lyked me so why is he being like this? I really am confused and I really want him back.
My friend said to me when i told her all this that she thinks he is just confused about what he wants because before he met me he was a quite innocent and had only kissed/made out with girls and back at the start of december after the ball(which was the 3rd) i had a house party (the 13th) and he took the next step with me and it was really great and he thought the same (now i didn't sleep with him or give him oral nothing of that sort.) and since he was quite inexperienced emotionally and physically with that sort of thing she told she thought that he had obviously thought a lot about it all afterwards thinking is was going to be getting too serious now (i don't think he has ever been in an even semi serious relationship with a girl) which is why he probably went the way he did because he got freaked out by it all but he does really like me because he made a point of meeting up with me to sort it all out face to face and he just didn't want to be getting serious at 16...do you think this makes sense why he went like this?
I don't want to be in anything serious either but how can i hint this to him now when we're over?
BUT now the latest is that he is texting this girl in my class and bebo-ing her lots (now she is a bit of a user with lads and she treats lads lyk crap and leads them by playing hard to get so they really like her when even though she probably doesn't like them that much and then messes them around BIG time..etc.) so she probably is leading him on and im really annoyed and hurt with her for being so sneaky about it and the same with him because he knows that we would be kind of pals or buddies lets say. Do you think i should say something about it all now or wait or what? do you think he/and or she could be doing it to annoy me?
I really could go on for ages asking questions but I'll stop now and I'd really appreciate any advice I get back.
thanks for reading and thanks for your advice.
Regards,
Aimee..Xx:D:)
Now we didn't see each other a lot but we were constantly texting. But then all of a sudden after the christmas break and when we were all back to school he just changed and gave me the cold shoulder like he wouldn't text me and it just went really awkward between us which confused me because it wasn't like him and it made me want to talk to him more then.
We finally met up (after about a week because things kept putting off our plans and on 2 occasions he couldn't make it which made me think it wasn't such a big rush to end it all) to talk about things and he just said to me that he "couldn't see us happening" and he "didn't think it would work out between us" and he didn't want to "be in a serious relationship" and I asked "why didn't he think it would work" and i said that "i didn't want to serious relationship either i was just wanting a bit of fun as well" and all he could say back to me was "I don't know why, something just snapped with me in my head and i just can't see us happening" and he said "i just go like that at times but i don't know why", this upset me 'cos he didn't even give me a proper excuse why..ya know? he said he still wanted to be good friends and all that as we do have a lot of friends that we would both be mates with... but what do ou think i should do? because i do want him back but this time i want to take things slow should i just get good friends with him first and play hard to get or what? and also do you think his answer to why he didn't want to see me anymore was valid or was he just letting me down easy? Do you think he did it because he has his eye on another girl? (even thought he didn't seem like he did when he was talking to me)he just seemed like he didn't know what he wanted at the time it was like he hadn't been in an even semi serious relationship before so he thought it all had to be serious and committed probably.
All this happened on the friday (the 23rd of jan.) and then saturday night(24th) I went to the cinema and he was there with his friends but he came over and talked to us and all but it was kind of awkward and he was playing with his drink a lot and shuffling his feet and turned towards me when we were all talking as well and when he went back to his friends he kept looking over and trying not to make it obvious but I just kept my back turned to him and laughed and chatted away... what do you think that could mean? Does he still like me? and then on Saturday last (feb the 7th) we went to a rugby match along with 2 other friends, because we always go anyway together and his attitude towards md and his body languauge showed he still lyked me so why is he being like this? I really am confused and I really want him back.
My friend said to me when i told her all this that she thinks he is just confused about what he wants because before he met me he was a quite innocent and had only kissed/made out with girls and back at the start of december after the ball(which was the 3rd) i had a house party (the 13th) and he took the next step with me and it was really great and he thought the same (now i didn't sleep with him or give him oral nothing of that sort.) and since he was quite inexperienced emotionally and physically with that sort of thing she told she thought that he had obviously thought a lot about it all afterwards thinking is was going to be getting too serious now (i don't think he has ever been in an even semi serious relationship with a girl) which is why he probably went the way he did because he got freaked out by it all but he does really like me because he made a point of meeting up with me to sort it all out face to face and he just didn't want to be getting serious at 16...do you think this makes sense why he went like this?
I don't want to be in anything serious either but how can i hint this to him now when we're over?
BUT now the latest is that he is texting this girl in my class and bebo-ing her lots (now she is a bit of a user with lads and she treats lads lyk crap and leads them by playing hard to get so they really like her when even though she probably doesn't like them that much and then messes them around BIG time..etc.) so she probably is leading him on and im really annoyed and hurt with her for being so sneaky about it and the same with him because he knows that we would be kind of pals or buddies lets say. Do you think i should say something about it all now or wait or what? do you think he/and or she could be doing it to annoy me?
I really could go on for ages asking questions but I'll stop now and I'd really appreciate any advice I get back.
thanks for reading and thanks for your advice.
Regards,
Aimee..Xx:D:)
